Am I in Love, Lust or Just Infatuated?

UsMenTalkBy UsMenTalkMarch 9, 20206 Minutes

Guys, do you remember those first few months when you met that certain lady that really lit your fire? She was on your mind 24/7. You couldn’t wait to see her, to touch her, to kiss her. You were obsessed! For most of us, we thought we were in the beginning stages of love. But what was it? So what happened? Why didn’t it sustain? Was it love I was feeling or something else?

Let’s start with a simple definition of love, “it’s a feeling of deep affection, passion, or strong liking for a person or thing.” Now, let’s look at some of the signs of love, lust and infatuation. Which ones fit your situation best?

Here are the top 20 signs you may be in love:

1) You think your girl is unique.
2) You focus only on your girls positive qualities- you see no flaws.
3) Your emotional and physiological well-being is all over the place.
4) You overcame a challenge together and now thought you were more romantically connected.
5) 85% of your waking hours are spent thinking about your love interest.
6) You wish you could spend every moment together.
7) You daydream about being together forever.
8) You’re willing to do anything for your love interest.
9) You reorder your priorities to align with your love interests.
10) You have a strong sexual desire for her coupled with a strong possessiveness that she is
yours only. You also believe this is the best sex ever.
11) You crave an emotional union with her.
12) Your passion for her is involuntary and uncontrollable.
13) You lose your appetite a bit.
14) You’re nervous and happy all the time.
15) You can’t stop staring at her.
16) You’ll do whatever necessary to impress her- salsa dancing/carry her Chihuahua.
17) You’re focused on her happiness.
18) You keep talking about her with everyone.
19) Every other gorgeous girl you meet doesn’t compare to your girl.
20) You’re focused on her happiness all the time.

Here are the top 6 signs you may be infatuated:

1) You have an idealized vision of what this person is.
2) You are thinking of ways of impressing this person because you don’t know how she feels.
3) You’re not confident that she has what it takes to go the distance.
4) Obsessively thinking about how she feels about you.
5) She disagrees with you about something and you wonder if the relationship is over.
6) You’re afraid that asking for a commitment will frighten her away.

Here are the top 4 signs you may be in lust:

1) You’re focused on having sex with her.
2) All you want is to be physically together with her.
3) You’re trying to figure out what you can do to get this person to invite you back to their place.
4) You don’t care if you have an argument, there’s always someone else.

Here are the top 5 signs you should no longer be with her (LOL):

1) You wish her goodnight and hope that daytime never comes.
2) She’s in the sauna and you lock the door from the outside so she won’t be disturbed.
3) She tells you her wheels and tires need balancing so you remove the lugnuts.
4) It’s Valentine ’s Day and you want to send her a cactus bush.
5) You buy a dog and tell her there’s only room for two, so she’s gotta go.

Okay guys, whaddaya think?

Have you had a similar experience? Can you relate? Share your thoughts, your stories, your questions and advice so we can all learn from one another and make better decisions. Plus, you’ll get some huge karma points for doing so.

Have a great day and a great life.

Larry Bryan
A regular guy, another opinion.SM